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Self Care Ideas for Busy Moms
These 48 self care ideas will help you reset your body, mind, and spirit. Self care and self love are essential for everyone, but even more so for busy mothers who spend the majority of their time caring for others.
The clock is ticking…
It’s 2:00 am and you’re lying awake staring at the ceiling while your husband snores beside you. You were woken up by the restless cries of your child. After rocking him back to sleep, you’ve returned to your bed, but while your body craves sleep, your mind is restless. You replay the events of the previous day, you think about all the things you need to do the next day, and then you become frustrated because you NEED sleep to get through your busy mama life, and here you are wasting time staring at the ceiling.
There was a time in the first few years of motherhood when I thought that any moment I was away from my child doing something for myself, I was being selfish. Fast forward six years later, and I know that when I don’t take care of myself I’m unable to take care of my kids. This was after I grinding it out day after day, without swimming up for air, and finding myself under the physical and emotional strains of suffering from chronic stress. However, I was lacking in quick, easy, and inexpensive self care ideas I could implement as needed.
You’re mind is full of undone tasks…
Dr. Amit Sood of the Mayo Clinic says the average person has 150 undone tasks on their mind at any given time. In addition, 70% of mothers with children under the age of 18 are working, and 75% of those mothers are working full-time. While mothers are spending their days in full-time jobs, 86% of mothers continue to manage most to all of the family schedules, and household responsibilities. All this adds up to the reason why you’re lying awake at night staring at the ceiling wishing you could sleep but worried about what needs to get done.
Motherhood: Rewarding and Exhausting
When you’re taking care of family and work responsibilities you leave little to no room to recharge, relax, and take care of your needs. When this happens day after day, week after week, year after year the result is detrimental to your mental and physical health. You become stressed, on edge, easily agitated, short with patience, and in the end this effects the people around you, your kids, your partner, even your co-workers and friends.
Let Go of Mom Guilt
When I speak to mothers they often believe that in order to be a good mother they have to be all hands on deck at all times. That means we believe we need to spend every waking moment with our children in order to be “good” mamas. The problem is the line between the amount of time we spend with our children, and the quality of time we spend with them. If you are with your children at all times but you’re frustrated and impatient with them because you haven’t taken the time to sit down and eat or take a shower, or just drink a cup of tea in silence, you’re time with your children is not being utilized effectively. When we allow ourselves to acknowledge that the quantity of time spent is not equal to the quality of our mothering, we allow ourselves the freedom to take care of our own needs in order to be the best mama for our children. Let go of mom guilt. You are not a bad mama for needing alone time. When you feel good the people around you feel good, so take some time for self-care not only for yourself, but for the people who love you.
Start a Self-Care Routine
When you’re already pressed for time, or don’t have a childcare option, self-care can feel impossible, frivolous and a waste of time. Many of these self-care routines can be done after the kids go to bed, cost little to no extra money, and will be well worth the effort if you continue to make them part of your daily routine. Making the choice to take care of yourself day after day will have lasting results on the health and happiness of you and your family. Give it time. You can’t expect a once a week bubble bath to be the answer to all your mama stress, but a daily self-care practice when done with fidelity over an extended period of time will improve your wellbeing.
48 Self Care Ideas for the Extremely Exhausted Mama
- Play your favorite song and dance.
- Sit down and read a chapter from a book.
- Curl up on the couch with a warm blanket and a cup of tea.
- Walk barefoot in the grass.
- Make snow angels.
- Write in a journal.
- Watch funny YouTube videos.
- Sit on your porch and look at the stars.
- Paint your nails.
- Read your favorite magazine.
- Practice yoga with a few sun salutations.
- Practice a guided meditation.
- Color, draw, or doodle.
- Give yourself a foot bath with epsom salts and a few drops of your favorite essential oil.
- Take a bubble bath.
- Give yourself a mud mask.
- Light a candle.
- Bake your favorite treat.
- Go for a quiet walk.
- Try a new lipstick color.
- Write a thank you note to yourself.
- Get outside and take pictures of nature.
- Go to a playground and play!
- Call a friend just to say hi.
- Look at yourself in the mirror and give yourself at least three compliments.
- Organize your closet.
- Start a gratitude journal.
- Sit outside and listen for the sounds in nature.
- Give yourself a foot massage.
- Take a long hot shower alone.
- Curl or straighten your hair.
- Put together a cute outfit using the clothes and accessories you already have in your closet.
- Smile at a stranger.
- Make yourself a smoothie.
- Pick some wild flowers and put them in a vase at home.
- Add a little something to your daily water.
- Brush your teeth and floss!
- Go to the grocery store alone and pick out an unusual fruit or vegetable you’ve wanted to try.
- Knit, crochet, sew, or needlepoint.
- Drink a glass of lemon infused water.
- Write a personal mantra for yourself.
- Organize your desk.
- Take the time to make yourself a warm breakfast.
- Catch snowflakes on your tongue.
- Put on some jewelry.
- Wear perfume or better yet create your own signature scent with essential oils.
- Go to Target alone with a latte, and get yourself something frivolous you’ve been eyeing.
Interested in learning more about how mindfulness and meditation to can improve your sense of calm and clarity in motherhood? Check-out my post on starting a mindfulness practice.
What is your favorite self care idea from above? Did you give it a try? Comment below and let me know!